Love your relationship. That’s what it comes down to!
We understand though, relationships are hard. And for more reasons then we have the time to get into. Author Dave Meurer once said, “A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”
A great thought, because there are always going to be differences. But it’s important to understand that the differences don’t have to be a separator. They also say that opposites attract right?
As important as that is, it is also important to know that you are not alone. Of course nobody and no relationship is perfect, but what we mean is that there are trained therapists that specialize in marriage and couples therapy. When love is built around the differences, we should turn to counselors to help us understand what that means, how to approach situations, and how to communicate.
Communication is often the key topic to explore and address. It’s extremely common for issues to fester because one or both individuals in the relationship aren’t A) letting their significant other know of their feelings, or B) are scared and hesitant to bring up situations thinking it would only make it worse.
Working with a marriage therapist like our marriage counselor Keller TX friends can open up a world of learning when it comes to problem solving, understanding and resolving conflicts, and just openly talking about how to improve even small complications. Again, if you or your spouse don’t know of what might be causing an issue, how would you ever resolve it?
According to the American Psychological Association, couples counseling using emotion-focused therapy (EFT), is about 75% effective. This approach helps couples think about their current approach to issues and conflicts, and then builds on how to strengthen or alter those methods.
Couples therapy doesn’t have to be reactive. Being open with one another with a professional counselor in the room can bring your relationship to another level. We would highly recommend you consider marriage counseling, no matter where you are in your relationship!